Benjamin Reynolds

It's interesting that Mom composed a Mindwalker1910 posting about her maternal grandfather, William Wolf Davis, but shared very little about her father.

I can understand not saying much about her mother, Rena Davis Reynolds - from what I heard from Mom & from my cousin Peggy, "Gran" was a real piece of work (and that's no compliment).

But Mom adored her father.

Then again, maybe that's why. It seems that the closer Mom was to someone, something, the harder time she had writing about it. With as wonderful a time as she had, with as much as it touched her heart, with how joyful it made her to celebrate, Mom could never share her experience of Chad & Whitney's wedding. Too close.

I wish I knew more about my grandfather than that he was a musician who played the piano & violin, among other instruments, and the autoharp when his heart condition didn't allow him to raise his arms for the violin. More than the very real fact that Mom lost him at the way too young age of 19. That she felt an illogical but very real guilt over not having been able to do more for him, that she couldn't keep him from dying from his heart condition.

There's very little I know about my maternal grandfather, Benjamin Reynolds. But I know his daughter loved him dearly & missed him through all her days.

avoiding elsa

yes, i've been intentionally avoiding elsa asplundh acton. not from any dire reasoning, but because it made sense to me. all the rest of the people i consider family have distanced themselves, i just gave her a wide berth assuming she felt the same whatever. realizing i have NO idea what or how she feels. unfair to both of us to steer clear.